J says "i never lied to you. whenever you asked about [P], or whatever you asked, i never lied to you". I feel silly now, but a little reluctant to let go of being offended, because I'm a stubborn fool. He says he doesn't remember when he asked, and I'm resisting the urge to trawl through my chat logs to find the relevant conversation because I don't want to seem obsessive, and I know it isn't really that important.